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Negative thinking is likely to rob you of the confidence that you have and feel that you cannot stand going before people. The thoughts instill fear in you, and you end up avoiding social gatherings. When you subject your opinions to negative thinking always, it will result in negative emotions. It can end up making you feel bad and can even lead to depression. The thoughts that you have will determine your mood for your entire day. Positive thinking will make you happy, and you will have a good feeling. Finding a way to suppress negative thoughts will be of importance to you. Replace them with positive ones so that they will not torment you. Some of the negative thoughts that come along with social anxiety are:
Thinking That People as Bad When you are in a social setting, each person tends to be busy with their issues. You can meet a calm person and begin a friendship if you can build a good rapport. When you have social anxiety, you are likely to avoid people and think that people do not care about you. You may feel that you don't see your importance being there while as you are the one who is avoiding them. When you find yourself in such a situation in a social setting, its time you know that you have to handle your social anxiety. That will make you feel like the people around you do not like you and hate you for no reason.
Unnecessary Worry It is obvious to have unnecessary worry when you have social anxiety. Even when you are on time, you are always worried that you will get late. You will portray a bad image for getting there late. When in a family setting, you are worried that your partner will scold you for lateness. You do things in a hurry so that you do not get late even when you have enough time to go to your thoughts. When you have someone else to accompany you, you will make them do things in a rush. You think like they are consuming all the time and they will be your reason for being late. You will even, at times, threaten to leave them if they don't do things quicker than they are already doing.
Judging Yourself Judging yourself is the worst thing you will ever go, and that will make you fear. Deciding whether you will find pleas people or not will make you have much social anxiety. You will be nervous when you start thinking about how people are thinking about your physical appearance. Judging how you other people will view you will make your self-esteem go down. The people you are worried about will think you do not look outstanding may not have an interest in how you look, but what you have to deliver. At times, people do not pay attention to the minor details that are making you judge yourself unnecessarily.
Criticism Anytime you know that you will intermingle with people, you fear they will criticize you. You do not even have a valid reason why they will criticize you, but you think it is not wise for you to join them. It is a negative thought, and you need to stop thinking in that direction. No one is going to critic you for no reason, and that should not be considered close to you. You will fear to go to social gatherings, and you will deny yourself an opportunity to learn from your fellow partners. Fearing criticism will make you an introvert, which will make you mean that you will miss much when you choose to stay indoors. When you say something and get someone to challenge you, it will help you be more creative. Criticism is not evil, even though people with social anxiety do not like a situation subject to critics. They will avoid such situations at all costs for fear of humiliation.
Pre judgment Although it is wise to think about the future, the art of judging tends to be detrimental. In other words, the aspect of prejudging situations tends to be worse, especially when the opposite of the expectations is meant. In most cases, social anxiety disorder tends to cause people to decide the results of a particular situation. It is worth noting that pre judgment is done in regards to the history or rather a forecast of what might happen in the future.
Blame Transfer When a society or the peers piles up unnecessary pressure on someone, the chances of missing the mark is quite easy. In other words, one quickly loses focus and misses the point. As a means of evading the shame or rather the punishment, the victims, in most cases, transfer the blame. For instance, if it issues to deal with academics, the victim may start claiming that time wasn't enough to deliberate on all issues. Others may associate their failures with the climatic changes or the lack of favorable conditions for working. There are cases where the victims tend to be genuine and claim diseases as the cause of their failure. However, the art of transferring blames from one point to another tends to be detrimental and shows signs of being irresponsible